Today is not only a new month; it's a new year. (I feel like I should be hungover.)
I always like to mark a fresh start and a clean state with an etiquette refresher. A lot has happened in my life lately that has left me both baffled and boggled. I sure hope you all won't mind if I beseech some basic niceties that have become increasingly important to me lately. (Reminder: These are merely suggestions!)
If you want to be friends with someone, make an effort. If they don't respond, make another effort. Sometimes the third time is NOT the charm.
If someone in your life has a big day coming up, make sure to contact them either the day before, on the actual day, or the day after. Let them know you care. Contacting them a few days afterward because you forgot is just plain hurtful.
If you know someone in your life is stressed, go out of your way to surprise them with something nice. Whether it be a card or cupcakes, show them that you're there and that you care.
If someone you know is having a 'make or break' moment, event or test, either wish them luck or let them know that you're thinking about them. For God's sake , DO NOT ask them about it. DO NOT bother them with phone calls and text messages asking how it went with excessive question marks. It shows that you care, but it's also insensitive. Let them come to you.
If someone gives you a present, write them a thank you note. If someone does something nice for you, write them a thank you note. If someone makes you smile, write a thank you note. Try to write at least one thank you note every day. (I prefer old-fashioned stationery, but I believe that anything involving the phrase works.)
Think twice before commenting on someone's blog. Put yourself in their shoes and try to read it through their eyes.
Don't do something kind solely for the purpose of hoping it will come back around to you. Do it because you want to.
Not a suggestion, just a thought... Proper protocol NEVER goes out of style.