My secret is that I talk to everyone. I strike up a conversation with anyone whose willing. If you are shy and not sure what to say, a compliment is always a good way to get someone's attention. I try to compliment at least one stranger a day.
My other suggestion is to get as involved as possible in your community - or even outside of it. I have made many of my friends through my sorority alumnae association. If you aren't Greek, try Junior League or another social club. I've also met many wonderful people through my blog and through working at the Lilly store once in awhile. My parents have introduced me to some of my friends. Ask people you know if they know anyone great that you should meet. This option is utilized mostly for romantic purposes, but don't be embarrassed to inquire otherwise! People in your life who know you the best may have a friend that would make a great friend for you as well - they probably just haven't thought to introduce you. It's up to you to remind them!
Of course, the other obvious answer is to do charity work. When I first moved to New York, I got involved with Susan G. Komen, which I have endless respect for. Currently I work with Adopt a Soldier, Green Edge NYC, and my sorority's foundation. I'm struggling with what else to get involved with, as none of the above really allows me to get out there and meet people. Perhaps you all have some suggestions for me?
Today's Preppy Pick is much like last week's. It's not something that can be bought - only obtained. Preppy friends are friends for life.
Here's a photo from the birthday dinner I attended last night.
The Foursome, two years later.
11 comments:
This was a great topic! I'm shy but I love people, so I have to step out of my comfort zone on occasion, and you included some cool ideas. I'm going to look into the Junior League and the Jaycees myself. I'm also currently trying to become a Big Sister; I just haven't heard back from them. I will probably only meet one person by doing this, but I think it's a great cause!
I've just joined a new church, too, so that will be a wonderful way to meet people, I'm hoping.
I am joining the NYJL :) xxxooo
Great ideas! I'm thinking of joining a charitable organization to meet more people and network. You never know, I might come across a good friend in the process!
Many years ago, a male friend of mine "fixed me up" with a female friend of his because he just thought we would get along. And he was right. She was a bridesmaid in my wedding a few years later.
A few years ago, after my divorce, I was feeling very sorry for myself. I finally dragged my big ass out and volunteered, figuring that seeing other people with bigger problems than mine, might put things in perspective. I wound up making a whole new group of friends, one of whom became my current husband. You just never know.
wow! You seem really nice...I'm really shy and need to work on getting out of my comfort zone with people more often. good post!
Great post. Thanks so much for answering my question. You seem to have a really great outlook on life and it shows. I enjoyed reading your tips and I will give some of them a try. Thanks again. Have a nice weekend!
Getting into other people and helping out others always takes my mind off any negative issues I have about myself. I love your preppy picks!
What great tips :)
I love that you are so involved in your sorority! I am in grad school, but can't wait until I can be active in an alumnae association once I graduate!
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