Today is one of those days in which I'm actually starting to believe that I just may be single for the rest of my life. I'm going to spare you the pity post and catch you tomorrow instead.
I was there once and you know what...it gets better and you will find someone. My best advice is the person may not be someone you would pick on paper. There is no logical reason why my hubs and I should be together but we really work well - total opposites.
I felt the same way for a long time. (OK not the words you want to hear from someone who is married). But I was 35 when I got married. It seemed everyone around me was getting married. It seemed it just wasn't happening for me. Then it did and so far we have been married for just over 11 yrs now. I can say that you just have to not think about it but that is not the advise you want to hear. When you aren't looking is when it happens. That is what happened with me and my husband and actually with another friend of mine and her husband.
I used to the feel the same way, and I hated it when people, all of whom were in relationships, told me that it wouldn't be that way forever. So I won't do that.
All I'll say is this, try to celebrate what you do have this holiday season, and no what you don't. I have a feeling then you might feel a little better :-)
I feel the same way, but it will happen for you when you least expect it. I know that is not the thing you want to hear, but it's true! I am keeping you in my prayers! I left you something on my blog!:)
Oh no, I'm sorry you're feeling down, I've definitely been there before. I won't give you any trite words of wisdom because I always used to hate that, but I hope you're feeling better! In lieu of pity post you can always send a pity email if you want to vent about it. Hope today is a better day for you.
Hmmm I don't know if I always agree with the old "it happens when you aren't looking" advice. I think if you sit by passively your life can pass you by before you know it. I'm not saying be desperate or lower your standards! But be pro active! There's NOTHING wrong with hitting up the dating websites, going on speed dates or singles mixers.
I think society has put too much of a stigma on women who are "looking". There's nothing wrong with wanting to be in a relationship! I met my current boyfriend of 3 years on-line. I was single for 21 years (NEVER had a boyfriend ever!) and decided one just wasn't going to fall out of the sky! I had to go after what I wanted.
The best advice I can give is that there's a happy medium to everything. Be proactive, but don't settle for less than what you think you deserve, which is the best of course!
I don't know how I found it, but i love your blog! Though THIS breaks my heart a little! You obviously will not be single forever...Studly men are on the horizon. The economy is bouncing back, and love lives are, too! Put on your best pencil skirt and head to Stone Street for some Happy Hour Hubby Hunting!
Read my post today. I'm right there with you, lovie!
ReplyDeleteGo down something for YOU tonight :) XOXO!
Oh, and I'm here if you just want to get it out of your system!
ReplyDeleteI was there once and you know what...it gets better and you will find someone. My best advice is the person may not be someone you would pick on paper. There is no logical reason why my hubs and I should be together but we really work well - total opposites.
ReplyDeleteI felt the same way for a long time. (OK not the words you want to hear from someone who is married). But I was 35 when I got married. It seemed everyone around me was getting married. It seemed it just wasn't happening for me. Then it did and so far we have been married for just over 11 yrs now.
ReplyDeleteI can say that you just have to not think about it but that is not the advise you want to hear.
When you aren't looking is when it happens. That is what happened with me and my husband and actually with another friend of mine and her husband.
I used to the feel the same way, and I hated it when people, all of whom were in relationships, told me that it wouldn't be that way forever. So I won't do that.
ReplyDeleteAll I'll say is this, try to celebrate what you do have this holiday season, and no what you don't. I have a feeling then you might feel a little better :-)
So sorry to see your irrepressible spirit beaten down. It will be OK.
ReplyDeleteI feel the same way, but it will happen for you when you least expect it. I know that is not the thing you want to hear, but it's true! I am keeping you in my prayers! I left you something on my blog!:)
ReplyDeleteSorry, honey. It only means this person was not what you deserve! Cause you deserve someone as wonderful as you are. Period. {Hugs}.
ReplyDeleteOh no, I'm sorry you're feeling down, I've definitely been there before. I won't give you any trite words of wisdom because I always used to hate that, but I hope you're feeling better! In lieu of pity post you can always send a pity email if you want to vent about it. Hope today is a better day for you.
ReplyDeleteI know I'm late...but stay positive!
ReplyDeleteHmmm I don't know if I always agree with the old "it happens when you aren't looking" advice. I think if you sit by passively your life can pass you by before you know it. I'm not saying be desperate or lower your standards! But be pro active! There's NOTHING wrong with hitting up the dating websites, going on speed dates or singles mixers.
ReplyDeleteI think society has put too much of a stigma on women who are "looking". There's nothing wrong with wanting to be in a relationship! I met my current boyfriend of 3 years on-line. I was single for 21 years (NEVER had a boyfriend ever!) and decided one just wasn't going to fall out of the sky! I had to go after what I wanted.
The best advice I can give is that there's a happy medium to everything. Be proactive, but don't settle for less than what you think you deserve, which is the best of course!
Go down something for YOU tonight
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I don't know how I found it, but i love your blog! Though THIS breaks my heart a little! You obviously will not be single forever...Studly men are on the horizon. The economy is bouncing back, and love lives are, too! Put on your best pencil skirt and head to Stone Street for some Happy Hour Hubby Hunting!
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