I was getting my daily vanilla last Thursday when I stopped to consider something. Do you ever wonder if single straight males feel intimidated by Starbucks? Because I know do.
Think about it. Are you a girl with a boyfriend? Do you love Starbucks? Do you go there with him? If you answered yes to the first two questions and no to the third, I feel ya. I had a boyfriend in college whom I visited during the summer while I was living in NY and he was at home in South Florida. When we woke up in the mornings, he would say, "What do you want to do today?" and I would say "Go to Starbucks." It was my only request and he refused to take me. Mind you that we were in a part of Florida that I consider to be generally boring and lackluster. There wasn't much to do. He claimed he didn't know where Sbux was, and this was before the days of internet & Google maps on cell phones. Instead, he had his mother make me chocolate protein shakes, claiming it was "just like a Frappucino". It wasn't, and we broke up soon after, not because of that, but I'd be lying if I didn't say that the instance left a bad taste in my mouth, both literally & figuratively. (That protein shake sucked.)
I would run into a similar problem after college when I visited a different boyfriend in his hometown. Same question (What do you want to do today?), same answer (Go to Starbucks.) Though, he was far more compliant and did finally take me for my venti vanilla, bless his heart. And, come to think about it, though my other college boyfriend (whom I was with for 2+ years) would always go to Starbucks with me, he constantly bitched about it.
Which brings me back to my original inquiry. I am single for a host of reasons, the biggest being that I'm just not quite ready to put myself out there, but I'm working my way back [to you babe] and I can't help but wonder... Is the 'Bucks hurting my love life? Is my daily need and general obsession with pricey flavored coffee beverages hindering my ability to land a man?
Don't tell me that you haven't been with at least one guy who was a dud, and that you wouldn't rather have your lips on a Starbucks cup than on his. No? Just me? Come on.
Starbucks or sex? I want to fall in love, and I'd give up my lattes in a heartbeat if I could find it. And those of you who know me even a little well know that's' saying a lot. But for now, I'll say this... Which drink and whose the guy? You give me your explanation and I'll give you mine.
My theory is that the guy who doesn't think twice about taking you to Starbucks and tries his best not to roll his eyes when you order a non-fat vanilla latte "extra hot" is the guy you need to keep.
ReplyDeleteHaha you're funny. I'm a So-Cal girl and I actually work at Sbux and when my boyfriend and I spend the night we get Starbucks in the morning. He doesn't mind because otherwise I will be a complaining tired bitch the rest of the day if I we don't.
ReplyDeleteI always feel so awkward ordering my drinks when men are around. my father makes fun of me, and I swear the men (strangers, mind you) behind me in line are judging my choice of liquid breakfast.
ReplyDeleteI used to panic and order "coffee. black." in attempt to not look so girly. screw that, I AM girly. slowly but surely, I'm gaining the confidence to order my grande, nonfat WITH whip, vanilla latte.
nonfat and whipped cream totally make sense. girl math.
"With a burnin' love insiiiiiide" (thanks for getting a good song stuck in my head ;))!
ReplyDeleteI am actually not a Starbucks girl except during the winter when I crave my Caramel Apple Spice. However, W. is a coffee guy and had no problem taking me there. If it's something that makes you happy, "HE" needs to accept it and move on. Otherwise, he isn't worth it...and we ALL know you deserve someone truly fabulous!
Have a lovely day, love!
Ya know, my BF was kind of weird about s*bucks when we were first dating. We were shopping around Xmas the first year we were together and I wanted to go into one he was like, 'Ill just wait out here, dont get me anything'
ReplyDeleteHe goes now when I request it, and I think even started to like some things but I don't think he will ever go to one on his own...weird.
I don't exactly have the sbux bug, especially while in Tallahassee, but I do love my guy because he helps my coffee addiction by turning on my Keurig every morning before I come downstairs. He doesn't drink coffee, but he always makes sure I get mine.
ReplyDeleteThat's so weird. I must be surrounded by too many metros, because I don't think I know any guys that are weird about Starbucks.
ReplyDeleteAnthony will happily take me to SBux anytime because we both love it. He's also the guy who wears pink without batting an eyelash and takes impectable care of his extensive wardrobe and footwear collection. I wouldn't swear off your lattes in lieu of a date, I don't think they are correlated. When Mr. Right comes along he will know that I latted Teddi is a happy Teddi and a happy Teddi is a happy Mr. Right :) So in his mind Starbucks = Sex !
ReplyDeleteIn college B and I used to meet up at starbucks to chat and what not. Now- he knows my drink and if he gets there first he has no issue saying "a grande skinny vanilla latte with 2 splenda extra hot" - I think you can have starbucks and sex ;)
ReplyDeletebut I will say - one of my exes - he wasn't a starbucks guy he was a caribou coffee guy and we - well we didn't last. :)
Lucky for me my BF starts his day with a venti black iced tea, unsweetened. He loves a quick pop into Starbucks even on the weekends!
ReplyDeleteThankfully, my boyfriend and I make incredibly frequent Starbucks runs together...we're both about equally addicted. Sometimes I make fun of him because he orders something girly and I order black coffee. A bonding experience all around.
ReplyDeleteAnyway, That protein shake sounds pretty gross--you're probably better off with a mocha latte than him.
I work in a very male dominate building (it is famous for its five sides) and I see men of all ages ordering what even I consider girly drinks. I too agree that you can have your coffee and sex. Hopefully one day I will find Mr. Right who also love Starbucks :)
ReplyDeleteUgh I had a bf who knew my drink and would indulge my insatiable craving for venti roomie 3 pump caramel americano's and he ended up being a scum bag... on the other hand he did complain I spent to much money on s*bucks and claimed the stuff he brewed in his frat house was the same. wonder we stayed together for so long.
ReplyDeleteI'm lucky I guess because my bf likes Starbucks. We don't go often, but every once in a while he'll suggest we meet up at Starbucks for lattes. The man for you definitely shouldn't have a problem with a little Starbucks indulgence.
ReplyDeletemy boyfriend cringes when i want starbucks, he used to be nasty about it until i shut his privileged butt down about it. i basically explained that "sometimes i just want what i want" and if that happens to be starbucks he needs to get used to it and not give me a hard time if it brings me joy whether or not he understands. his arguement typically is more along the lines of there are much better places to go starbucks doesn't takes good.
ReplyDeleteTAG, the two are NOT mutually exclusive! You should be holding out for your shining prince with Starbucks in hand. You shouldn't alter who you are because you *think* it'll send a different message. At the end of the day the right person will see through to the real you anyway :)
ReplyDeleteMy boyfriend goes to Starbucks more than I do. :-)
ReplyDeleteHe's an iced coffee type of guy (sometimes he'll have it hot though). I get either the caramel apple cider, or the vanilla creme. Delish.
My hubby loves Sbux way more than I do. You shouldn't have to choose between Sex and Starbucks.
ReplyDeletei'm a grande skim latte (or a venti with a double shot if its been that kind of day). the boy isn't really into starbucks, but he'll stop if i want to. usually, i don't go with him because i don't like to hear him complain about the cost. (so, i guess i gave up starbucks with the man, i do starbucks solo or with girlfriends:)
ReplyDeleteYou shouldn't have to choose. The right one will indulge your Starbucks love w/o complaint. He's out there, have faith!
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