I had dinner with one of my dearest girlfriends tonight. After I told her all about my weekend in North Carolina, I asked her what was new. When she told me that she and her new man are now 'official', I asked her how that came about.
"We had the 'DTR' conversation," she replied.
I have always prided myself on being quick as a cat with any and all acronyms, but this one left me stumped.
"Define The Relationship," she explained. He told her he wanted to DTR, asked her to be his girlfriend, and she said yes.
God, what a brilliant breakthrough. I don't know about you, but relationships past teenaged years are all kinds of ambiguous to me. In high school (at least at my high school), if a boy asked you out, you were together. Easy as that. Those six simple words - "Will you go out with me?" - said so little and yet so much.
I feel like in the relationships I've been in since then, the DTR has either been awkward or nonexistent. In most cases I've said something along the lines of, "So, what are we doing here?" because I was craving clarity. Which leads us to today and why I am single. I loathe anything forced and unnatural.
It is refreshing for me to hear that there are still old-fashioned gentlemen out there who actually want to DTR. I think it may be my new favorite abbreve.
How did you DTR?