Yesterday, a friend emailed me to ask how I feel about being single while all (most) of my girlfriends are settling down.
How many cliches can I fit into one blog post?
I could tell you that I feel like I'm sitting on the starting line even when everyone else hit the ground running long ago... that I'm love's biggest cheerleader and my team is having a great season... that I'm trying to dance in the rainstorm while waiting for the sunshine... And those would all be true. And you could tell me that I'm only 25. That when you stop looking, it finds you. That when you're least expecting, it hits you like a ton of bricks. Come on. We've been around this Merry-Go-Round before.
How do I feel? Happy and sad, cheerful and dismal, curious and confused, patient and anxious. A million and one things. I could talk for days.
I am sitting here planning my parents' 30th anniversary party and I am reminded of my favorite couple - who met in 1977 under a tree at the University of Miami, who were from two different worlds and had the odds stacked against them, who made it work anyway and have two daughters that love them more than life itself and 30 years later, are just as happy together as they were on their wedding day - that love and life work in mysterious ways.
And I'm feeling pretty good about that.
I understand that totally! Most (if not ALL) of my friends are married and even starting families and while I am so happy for them, I am wondering about myself.
ReplyDeleteBut I do love all the words of advice I always get (I think you covered them all). They make me laugh!
It will never end. Once you're dating, someone will ask "how do you feel not being married' then once you're married the question will be "how do you feel about being the only one without kids?" Sigh. I'm with ya girl!
ReplyDeleteI am in the same boat. Except two years ago when I turned 30, a clock I never before knew existed starting going off non-stop. If it weren't for the darn clock, I don't think I would care as much. But science says I am officially OLD at 35. Thats exactly 2.5 years from this week for me. Oy vey!
ReplyDeleteI can totally relate!!! All of my friends are busy planning their weddings currently, and I'm no where near that stage!! As long as you're happy, that's all that matters! =)
ReplyDeletei feel you!
ReplyDeletep.s. my parents have been married for 30 years as well! i'm still 24 though.
Listen. I promise you are not alone. Honestly.
ReplyDeleteOh my gosh, I love your parents' story. That is so wonderful. And so, so rare these days. Good for them, and congratulations on 30 amazing years. You are so blessed with such an amazing family, Teddi!
ReplyDeleteI agree with all of the other comments. :-) Your parents are wonderful reminders of how true love DOES happen and when it does, it lasts a lifetime! Don't stop believin', girl!
ReplyDeleteThis is one beautiful post Miss Madame.
ReplyDelete30 yrs. what are the odds?
A perfect tribute to your incredible, cool,
loving parents and sister.
Perfectly written.
You're still so young! Many of my friends who got married soon after college or even a few years out are now divorced or miserable, because they jumped into it before they really knew who they were. Another friend married a shady guy with no available credit, no savings or job, no college education (she has a Master's degree) and no aspirations because she was afraid of being alone the rest of her life.
ReplyDeleteI think it was Gloria Steinem who said, "Many people are looking FOR the right person instead of trying to BE the right person." (or was it Marilyn Monroe?) :)