I used to always think that the only people I would depend really heavily on were my mom and dad. I wouldn't allow myself to lean on friends the way that I saw other people do it because I felt like I didn't have to. I have amazing parents; why would I ever need to count on anyone else?
I'm learning so much about friendships lately. Not only that sometimes I will need to lean on people other than my blood relatives. I have a habit of sharing different things with different people and then forgetting to whom I told what. Sometimes I wonder if I should break this pattern but it works for me. I don't have one big group of girls but rather a lot of individual, special relationships. Some are great shoulders to cry on, some are great ears for listening, some are great mouths for laughing. And all of them would be there for me if I needed them. And just because I talk to some friends less than others and some friends don't ask me about who I'm dating or what's going on in my life doesn't mean they have given up on me or that they don't care or that our friendship is any less important or meaningful. All of these people are in my life for a reason, and everyone is different. I have learned that there is no right or wrong. There are so many different ways to be a good friend, and sometimes I forget that.
Last night I had dinner with one of my best friends and another girl whom we'd never met before but "knew" through the blogger world. We had THE best time, just as I thought we would. It was comfortable and fun. There was a lot of wine and no boundaries. We talked about anything and everything. I listened to them recount stories about how they each met The One and hoped I'd be ask lucky some day.
I hate the way I look in this photo but I love these girls. Why do all my features melt into one another? I'm barely distinguishable. Anyway...
In the year of self-discovery that is TeddiSeven, I am so happy and thankful every single day to have such wonderful women in my life. They will never know how grateful I am, but I will spend the rest of time trying to show them.
When I first had children, I found it very hard to make new "mom" friends.
ReplyDeleteMy sister in law kept telling me that I would make friends through the kids and I have done just that in the last year and a half.
I've met a great small core group of moms who were (or are in) the same situation we were in (speech delayed child) and it's nice to have that friendship.
Wow, this post rings so true and close to my heart,its downright frightening, but i enjoyed it, glad you had a great time with your friend and made a new friend in the process.
ReplyDeleteI have learned more about friendships this past year than i think i learned over the last twenty years and that is not the slightest exaggeration.
True friends do not judge you or force you to hold back, they encourage honesty and do not say "i dont want to hear about that" and then promptly change the topic to something that they know push other people's buttons.
If you can find two true blue friends who you can tell anything to and know that you will be there for them no matter what, you are truly blessed
Have a great day
WAH I LOVE YOU (also I was so happy after the three way date last night that I forgot to set my alarm..)
ReplyDeleteYour features do not melt into one another!
ReplyDeleteAnd I am with you about friends. I have basically no friends in town anymore. All of them are at the very least a 40 minute drive away. This adjustment has been hard/depressing/difficult. I have just had to plow through it! I also tire of the 'plow through it' attitude but know you will be better for this struggle right now.
Hugs.
My favorite post used to be "27 is not the loneliest number" but now its this one!
ReplyDeleteIt's awesome that you have a circle of friends! I really need more friends here in Atlanta. Come down and visit me!
ReplyDeleteFarrah (aka VintageWasp)